3 “Anti-Hustle" Things I’d Do If I Wanted a New Job Tomorrow
Where are the LinkedIn witches at?
If you’re feeling uninspired, frustrated, sick of corporate—or whatever job you currently have—and are desperate for a change, I am with you.
I spent nine years at the same company right out of college, and one year in I was like, “Okay, I’m good. I’ve seeeeen what I’ve needed to see, and I need something different.”
So, I followed the recipe that LinkedIn spits out for you:
Stay at least a full year (if not two)
Then start to apply other places
Tailor every version of your résumé
List the metrics that have benefited the company
Perfect the answer to “what is your achilles heal”
(PS when the CEO asked me that in my final interview, I all but blacked out because I was so nervous. My brain was like: uhh what causes that injury?? idk! improper footwear, flat feet, CrossFit, grocery cart mishap??)
Ask everyone and their dog for a reference
I did it all. I was ready to leap because the emotional agony of screaming into the void and just getting inundated with work was crushing my spirit.
But the rejections were also killing me. I made it to the last round of many interviews but never got the job. I was growing exhausted of the chase. I put in so much effort and followed all the rules… what was the problem??
Hello!!! Is this thing on?! *screams into metaphorical microphone to all of LinkedIn*
So I did what any rational person would do: blame the economy—and the fact that my current role was so niche that my skills weren’t transferable. (A lie I told myself.)
I gave up the chase for a while and went all in at work to gain more experience.
You need a handbook for an all your crappy processes that no one ever wrote down? Easy!
(PS The only thing that should ever be criminalized for being undocumented is a corporate process!!!!)
Onboard team members? Sign me up.
Volunteer to teach tips & tricks? I’ll show you moves Salesforce didn’t even know it had.
Team website? Say less.
Triple my workload & overhaul an entire department? I’m the Eldest Daughter. Step aside.
But alas, as my skills grew, my desirability in the workforce didn’t seem to budge.
Then a friend who knew about my deep dissatisfaction gave me a little cash gift to put towards “my dream business.”
I could have used that money to hire a web designer to beef up my grief counseling page and client base (my side hustle at the time) or invest in another certification. But instead, I put it aside and said, “I don’t know what I need to do with this, but I am making a decision to make better decisions from now on. I don’t know how… but I’ll know when it’s right to spend it.”
This was my first declaration to myself and the Universe that I was going to stop jumping at the first thing I saw and WAIT for my intuition to light up.
Two weeks later, I saw a friend of a friend post on Instagram about “timeline healing.” She was a medium who was channeling her passed loved one to heal the grief, and learn lessons from them.
I froze in my tracks and my whole body lit up. “I don’t care what the price is—I NEED to work with her.”
She was marketing herself primarily as a perfectionism coach, but what I really wanted was whatever magic she was using in that story. I was so inspired that she was getting clarity about life from divine sources.
Finally, a coach I felt a full-body yes from.
It was one of the first times I can look back and realize I truly waited and listened to my sacral response (in Human Design, my authority (decision-making) is sacral). I was lurching forward into this coaching experience. For a sacral being, that’s as hell yes as it gets.
Three months into working with Kristen, I landed my dream job at my company.
It truly felt like I had created this job out of thin air…what everyone calls “manifesting” because:
I had no idea this job existed
No idea that this department at my company existed
and no experience in this field other than reading a ton of books about it (shoutout to Appreciative Inquiry).
With my coach, I dove head first into learning about the world of energy, healing, and how our big, vast universe actually works.
My journal entries went from a bitch-fest cycle to
future mapping
channeling my mom and my higher self,
asking “what if” questions
deciding what I believed I was worth
deciding what I believed was possible for me
And in only a few months, I landed a new career path in change management, at the same company. No new rules to learn. No new mission statement to memorize. No social anxiety. It was perfect.
Did I cry my eyes out at points because corporate was more than my empathy heart bargained for? For sure.
Did I also meet my soulmate in this new job? Also yes.
Did I manage a $25K market adjustment, then a $5K raise, then a $30K random bonus, and a $10K merit bonus all within the same six months? Also yes.
So, if I were to do it all again—and make it all happen faster—these are the three things I would do today to shift myself towards an entirely new timeline and career.
1. Put my whole ass into something I love, consistently, for three days.
And I mean my whole ass. Not half-ass. Whole. Ass.
And yes, just 3 days.
Because I want you to actually do it and get a taste of creating your reality. Ideally, you do this everyday. But alas, we don’t always have the time!
Why this works →
There are a million ways you can discern what you want to be when you grow up, how to make more money, how to leverage your skills to be more lucrative than AI, blah blah blah.
But does any of that sound fun to you?
Do you get aroused browsing Indeed and writing cover letter copy that’s going to get you an AI rejection letter 1.5 seconds after hit send? I doubt it. (And if you do, you need to be examined.)
So take a break from all that. For the next three days, stop applying. Stop searching. Stop editing your LinkedIn bio for the 80th time.
Instead, spend 45 minutes doing something that makes you feel alive.
This does not mean the adrenaline-junkie definition of alive—you don’t need to threaten your existence. But you do want to do something that brings your soul closer to your body. Something that makes you remember, ah yes, THIS is why I came to Earth. I can’t give you a comprehensive list of ideas because this is SO unique to you but here’s my ALIVE list:
Exploring new coffee shops
Painting
Visiting places I have core childhood memories about
Tennis
Dance lessons
Writing
Puppies
Baking gluten-free pumpkin cookies (DM me if you want my Mom’s secret recipe and we can be friends)
Photoshoots (or getting my hair, nails, makeup done)
Anything that involves a confetti cannon
What this does is put you in alignment with your best self—even if only momentarily.
That frequency of aliveness is what magnetizes better and brighter things into your orbit.
This is the part of the work that requires you to be the magnet rather than chase everything you want.
And the thing that makes you feel alive doesn’t have to have anything to do with your career. It can be—but it’s not required. What’s required is a shifting of your energetic state from hopelessness, chaotic searching, and questioning → to flow, openness, and believability.
When you are in this state, you open your frequency to more possibilities. You release your death grip on wanting and shift into attracting.
You can want something SO bad and worry yourself sick about getting it—but the universe responds and provides according to your frequency.
This means your emotional state, your beliefs, and your openness. Just wanting it, doesn’t cut it.
Now, this doesn’t mean that just shifting your energy means your dream job will show up on your doorstep tomorrow (though it could!).
What’s more likely is that you’ll shift into a higher frequency of emotions for an hour or so, maybe journal about it later, and you’ll have spent 45 minutes giving a signal to the universe of what you want more of in your life.
Even 45 minutes can provide you with returns such as:
Dreams that remind you of someone who might help you on your career journey
A random airdrop of inspiration to act on the next day
A little more energy to take a different route to work tomorrow—where you cross paths with someone wearing a T-shirt from your dream company
It’s not about working harder. It’s about becoming someone who is open to more inspiration and support from the world around you.
You do this by being in your joy more often.
If you want to get crazy specific, you can use your Human Design to focus on your alignment signature and do something that makes you feel those particular emotions.
I’m oversimplifying it but here’s the gist:
Manifestor > Peace or worthiness
Mani Gen > Excitement or satisfaction
Generator > Joy or satisfaction
Projector > Success or appreciation
Reflector > Surprise or delight
👉 You can look up your design type here on my free chart generator.
2. Chisel away at some of my career stress/trauma/grief/limiting beliefs with somatic energy work.
I didn’t do this exact type of energy work when I first manifested that change management dream job. But I was consistently doing regular energy work to balance my chakras to the best of my ability.
However, right before I decided to quit my job and go full-time entrepreneur, I had been doing a lot of tapping work—aka Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT).
What I love about EFT is that it’s so simple that anyone can do it—whether they have any background in energy work or not. You don’t need a Reiki certification or know what the chakras even do. You just need a little patience and rhythm.
Why it works →
Your beliefs about yourself are formed before the age of seven. You then develop more of these beliefs as you move through the world and society teaches you what gets you praise, love, money, reward, etc.
When we have limited self-image, belief systems, or just overall yucky feelings about what the world can give us and our place in it, it can be really hard to change course and manifest our truest desires—including (but not limited to) a new career.
As you collect trauma (lol why did I write collect like they are tokens… ugh, I’m leaving it), you build on these limiting core beliefs, and they can be really tough to shake loose if you haven’t spent your whole life well-regulated.
The beliefs and trauma literally get stored in your cells.
“Trauma is not just an event that took place sometime in the past; it is also the imprint left by that experience on mind, brain, and body.”
🩵 — Bessel van der Kolk, M.D.
Think of these limiting beliefs (caused by trauma or not so great events) as a giant slab of concrete living on top of your heart.
Your heart is trying to pump out a frequency of its wants, hopes, and dreams (someone just give us girls a pet pony for crying out loud!). But there’s this heavy, cold rock on top of it—it’s so thick that the vibration your heart wants to emit is having trouble communicating with the outside world.
When you do energy work or somatic healing practices like EFT, you send a signal through acupressure to your body that says, “I’m safe.”
And that wave of energy starts to put some cracks in the ugly rock on top of your heart.
The more you use practices like energy work, Reiki, EFT, yoga, and even talk therapy, the more you chisel away at the hardness inside you.
(That sounds wrong... but I’m leaving it!)
The beautiful thing about EFT is that it connects the soul, the belief systems, the energy part of you with your actual body.
A body that has been so tense and frustrated. A body that is literally gripping so tightly to its wants, running uphill with a giant boulder on its back.
But it doesn’t have to be so hard. It’s time to shrink the boulder.
Let’s do one round of tapping together right now.
Write down your symptoms or emotions around your career and add “I deeply love and accept myself at the end of each one. This is your first tapping script.
I am so annoyed that I don’t have a new job yet…I deeply love and accept myself.
I feel like the economy is preventing me from getting hired… I deeply love and accept myself.
And so on…
Say your script while tapping on these pressure points:
Side of Hand (Karate Chop Area)
Eyebrow
Side of Eye
Under Eye
Under Nose
Chin
Collarbone
Under Arm
Top of Head
Do so until you feel a shift in your body. Ever so slight turn toward lightness.
You’re going to repeat this process with statements related to ICKY events that make you feel unwell about your career, purpose, or job security.
The feedback from that recruiter destroyed my confidence…I deeply love and accept myself
Getting laid off five years ago really messed with me…I deeply loved and accept myself
My dad doesn’t think my job is a real job… I deeply love and accept myself
Tap…Tap…Tap
You’re going to repeat this process AGAIN with statements related to your core beliefs that make you feel unwell about your career, job prospects, desperately browsing Indeed, money…
It doesn’t matter what I do, I’m not smart enough for more money…I deeply love and accept myself
I crumble under pressure, I’m not cut out for fast paced-work…I deeply love and accept myself
Tap…Tap…Tap
Now if you are feeling any relief at all, you can move into the positive round. You’re going to keep tapping but change up the statements to be open, flowy, ever so slightly more optimistic. Just let the words flow out of you. Don’t think too hard.
I’m willing to believe there’s something out there for me…I deeply love and accept myself
I am learning how to handle pressure better every day… I deeply love and accept myself
It’s ok to be misunderstood by my family…I deeply love and accept myself
Getting laid off hurt but I know I deserve security…I deeply love and accept myself
Go at your own pace. Do one section and then come back to it another day. Showing up for yourself is what matters.
If you want someone to walk you through it… let’s work together! This is exactly the type of work I help my clients with during office hours sessions.
3. Talk different. Talk to different people.
Let’s reallllly get into some strategies here based on how you are meant to get opportunities. Of course, I’m going to have you reference your Human Design. OF COURSE I AM.
You must be new here if you think this is a crazy time to bring up HD.
Anyway—go to your chart (get yours for free here) and I want you to look at your Throat Center.
Is it undefined (white space) or defined (colored in)?
Suggestions for Throat Centers
If it’s defined:
You have a consistent voice and way of expressing yourself. Your power is in speaking from conviction and embodiment. This is your direct line to the Universe.
Record a voice note or video sharing what you want next in your career—say it out loud.
Use your defined energy to speak opportunities into existence; literally say, “I’m calling in my next aligned role where I get to…”
Don’t wait for people to prompt you about what’s going on—initiate conversations, and just literally yap about your dream career!
If it’s undefined:
You are designed to amplify and mirror the voices and stories around you. Your magic lies in who you’re talking to and what environments you’re in.
Be intentional about who you’re around. If you’re on LinkedIn, collaborate, comment on posts, or join conversations where other people are talking about their career in a positive way!
Ask reflective questions to yourself out loud, “What do I need in my next role? What does the Universe want me to lean into? Who do I need to talk to for support?” Then see what/who shows up in your environment the rest of the day and look for clues. (Life is just one big giant game of Blues Clues)
Focus less on finding your voice when you’re talking about your desires or next career move and focus on letting inspiration move through you. You’ll sound different and even say different things depending on who you’re talking to! That’s why it’s important to branch out who you’re discussing this with!
Suggestions for other HD Things!
If you have a 4 in your profile, your people are your gateways. People you like! So it’s time to use your network better. Post on LinkedIn. Reach out to your friend who’s just ever so slightly ahead of you in her career for advice. Talk to your algorithm and say, “BRING ME GOOD PEOPLE TO LEARN AND CONNECT WITH.” Watch who shows up.
If you have a 1 in your profile, information is your gateway. Tell the universe, “Steer me in the direction of someone who has walked this path before and has the critical, enlightened information I so desperately need.” Watch who shows up.
If you have a 3 in your profile, adventure is your gateway. You need to experience life to really become the master of it. Plan a little excursion for yourself and talk to whomever you feel drawn to during that activity. Adventure can be as simple as a new coffee shop or as bold as a hike. (Any hike to me is bold! We are not a hiking family—but I love that journey for you.)
Don’t over think it. During the coffee shop adventure, if the barista seems nice, just casually mention, “God, I need this coffee SO bad—applying for jobs today!!”
And just let the human interaction be enough magic fuel the rest of the day.